376: Organize a Pop-Up Discussion Circle, a Brunch Hack, and Helping Someone Tackle Personal Admin Tasks

We’re getting ready for our Very Special Episode 380: Ask Us Anything, so send in any questions you’d like to hear us discuss. 

Try This at Home

Organize a pop-up discussion circle to have a one-time discussion of a book, podcast, TV show, or life challenge. We’d like a better name, so send any ideas.

I mention the writer Laurie Colwin. If you want to read Laurie Colwin yourself, I recommend Happy All the Time (AmazonBookshop), Family Happiness (AmazonBookshop), and Home Cooking (AmazonBookshop).

On an earlier episode of More Happier, Elizabeth and I talked about our love for the Get Back documentary about the Beatles Also, if you want more ideas about building and maintaining friendships, sign up for my Friendship Jump-Start 

Happiness Hack

A listener suggests that when you go to a restaurant, pick a time that’s slightly ahead of the time people typically choose to meet, so you spend less time in line. 

Four Tendencies Tip

An Obliger asks about how to nudge her QUESTIONER/Rebel sweetheart to tackle his personal administrative tasks. If you want to take the Four Tendencies quiz, to find out if you’re a Questioner, Obliger, Upholder, or Rebel, take it here (quick, free, more than 3.2 million people have taken it).

Listener Question

A listener with a new baby asks for suggestions for family traditions or rituals that listeners have established. A “new tradition” seems like an oxymoron, but we have to start sometime! I mention flying wish paper and the TV show This Is Us. 

Demerits & Gold Stars

Elizabeth’s Demerit: She didn’t get the shingles vaccine when she planned. 

Gretchen’s Gold Star: I give a gold star to myself because I identified the problem, and bought an extension cord for my headphone.


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  • If you’d like to learn more about the Four Tendencies, head to the Four Tendencies hub  to learn more about the framework and how to apply it in various settings—at work, in healthcare, with children, with a sweetheart, with yourself.


What we’re reading

  • Elizabeth: Listening to Real Estate Investing QuickStart Guide by Symon He (AmazonBookshop)
  • Gretchen: Smile: The Story of a Face by Sarah Ruhl (AmazonBookshop)




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