A listener suggests more strategies for dealing with being interrupted:
- just keep talking until the other person quits interrupting
- when the interrupter is done talking, wait, and when the person asks for a reply, say “You keep interrupting me — are you done talking now, is it my turn?”
She also mentioned Deborah Tannen’s book, You Were Always Mom’s Favorite! (Amazon, Bookshop)
Try This at Home
Observe the birthday of your spiritual teacher.
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Elizabeth’s spiritual teacher is Barbara Walters.
I mention the memoir of my spiritual teacher — Story of a Soul, by St. Therese of Lisieux (Amazon, Bookshop).
Low on kitchen counter space? Pull out a drawer and put your cutting board on top of it.
Happiness Stumbling Block
Coined by researcher Tal Ben-Shahar, the term “arrival fallacy” describes the belief that when we arrive at a certain destination or reach a certain goal, we’ll be happy.
The arrival fallacy is a fallacy because arriving rarely makes us as happy as we expect.
An Upholder asks about how to manage their “cheerleading addiction.”
Demerits & Gold Stars
- Elizabeth’s Cascading Demerit: Because she didn’t put dates into a calendar for school, she bought an expensive ticket to an event, which turned out to conflict with “Back to School” night.
- Gretchen’s Gold Star: The online thesaurus has saved me countless hours.
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