You Get What You Get, and You Don't Get Upset. | Gretchen Rubin [Skip to content](#content) [ ![](https://gretchenrubin.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/gretchenrubin-logo-768x344.png) ](https://gretchenrubin.com) - July 17, 2017 # You Get What You Get, and You Don’t Get Upset. Happier with Gretchen Rubin [Listen OnSpotify](https://open.spotify.com/episode/3yijGA5zrc45flkSVGjrGK)[Listen OnPandora](http://app.stitcher.com/splayer/f/61836/50801665) Little: A Lesson from Pre-School: You Get What You Get, and You Don’t Get Upset ![Little: A Lesson from Pre-School: You Get What You Get, and You Don’t Get Upset](https://megaphone.imgix.net/podcasts/d3eece5a-34f6-11f1-8af6-2b2be23d90fd/image/f255fc2790d879c623f0beb2f1ec2fbc.jpg?ixlib=rails-4.3.1&max-w=3000&max-h=3000&fit=crop&auto=format,compress) Show Podcast Information EPISODE NOTES It’s funny what we remember. When handing out scarves with different patterns, or cupcakes with different colors of frosting, I would hear my daughter’s nursery school teachers admonish the children, **“You get what you get, and you don’t get upset.”** I remind myself of this *all the time*. Sometimes, I can change, control, or choose; sometimes I can’t — in which case, it doesn’t help to get upset about it. This saying is a good example of the “[**fluency heuristic**,](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fluency_heuristic)” by the way: we remember ideas better, and find them more valuable, when they’re easy to remember — for instance, because the words rhyme. (For some reason, I get a big kick out of this.) Do you have any childhood sayings that have stuck with you? Rhyming or non-rhyming. #### RESOURCES The Happier app is on Twitter! Follow @thehappierapp for Know Yourself Better questions, ideas for aims, and more. 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