
We just passed the seventh anniversary of one of the happiest days of my life, so I went back to read something what I wrote on that day. And in honor of that anniversary, I thought I’d read it here.
Here’s what I wrote, seven years ago.
Today is one of the very happiest days of my life.
I was happy when my two daughters were born, but having a baby is such a tremendous new responsibility; I was extremely happy, but also awestruck and slightly terrified.
I was happy on my wedding day, but I was also worried about how the whole day would unfold. For instance, strangely, I was very concerned that my veil might fall off as I was going down the aisle.
And so on.
Today, though, I’m purely, absolutely happy.
In my books The Happiness Project and Happier at Home, I write about the fact that my husband got hepatitis C from a blood transfusion during a heart operation, when he was eight years old. You really don’t want to have hepatitis C; eventually, it destroys your liver. My husband tried many treatments over the years, but nothing worked.
But at last, a new treatment was approved, and my husband went on it right away.
As of this morning, he has been declared CURED. A few hours ago, we got the email from his extraordinary doctor, Dr. Leona Kim-Schluger. He is now free from the virus. It’s over.
I am so, so happy, and grateful, and relieved, and thrilled. I can’t really put it into words.
And yet there’s something more I want to say.
I love children’s literature, and at this minute, I’m reminded of a scene from one of my favorite books, Louisa May Alcott’s Little Women (Amazon, Bookshop).
It’s Meg’s wedding day, and she and Laurie start talking about drinking wine. Laurie explains, “I don’t care for it; but when a pretty girl offers it, one doesn’t like to refuse, you see.”
Meg answers, “But you will, for the sake of others, if not for your own. Come, Laurie, promise, and give me one more reason to call this the happiest day of my life.”
And in that spirit, my dear readers, out of the fullness of my heart, let me ask something of you, so I have one more reason to call this the happiest day of my life.
If you support organ donation, take a moment to sign the donor registry, and also to tell your friends and family that you’d want to donate your organs.
Very few of us die in a way that permits us to donate our organs, and in a time of sorrow and shock, the people around you might not know what you would’ve wanted. Let them know, now, if you would want to be an organ donor.
Over the last many years, I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about my husband’s liver, and I’m very glad that he gets to keep the one he was born with. But things might not have turned out this way.
Tears are running down my face…I’m beside myself with joy! I hardly know what to do with myself. What do you do on one of the happiest days of your life? I think I’ll go buy his favorite dessert: a pralines’n’cream ice cream cake.
I wrote that seven years ago, and I’m just as happy today. In fact, I think I’ll go buy an ice cream cake. That’s still his favorite dessert.
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Episode highlights:
- Try This at Home: Avoid the sunk-cost fallacy—the mental trap that keeps us committed because of the time, money, or energy we’ve already spent [04:57]
- Happiness Hack: Create a personal reading syllabus with deadlines to help you read more [12:58]
- Happiness Stumbling Block: Six common biases that make it difficult to assess and prepare for rare but serious emergencies [16:03]
- Demerits and Gold Stars: Gretchen’s Demerit: Turning into a Knicks bore; Elizabeth’s Gold Star: To her friend Mindy for a new exercise experience [24:11]
Mentioned in this episode:
- The Ostrich Paradox: Why We Underprepare for Disasters by Robert Meyer and Howard Kunreuther (Amazon, Bookshop)
- This Vast Enterprise: A New History of Lewis and Clark by Craig Fehrman (Amazon, Bookshop)
- Audition by Katie Kitamura (Amazon, Bookshop)
- Rolling utility cart
- Happier Labor Day resources
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