Podcast 78: Seek Out Silence, Are You Pulled Toward Work or Leisure, and Don’t Over-Plan Your Summer.

It’s time for the next installment of  “Happier with Gretchen Rubin.


Our listener Kristen pointed out that when using the Strategy of Pairing (one of the Strategies from my book Better Than Before), it’s also important to be able to unpair activities — such as unpairing the idea that you can’t exercise because it will mess up your hair.

Try This at Home

Seek out silence.

Happiness Hack

When we were young adults, our parents would always cover the cost when we traveled to visit each other.

Know Yourself Better

Do you feel pulled more toward work, or toward leisure?

Listener Question

Alison asks about how to deal with her distress after losing her engagement ring.

Gretchen’s Demerit

I learn that I don’t have enough time in my day to follow through with my entire “design my summer” plan. I had three ways to design my summer, and I can only do two out of three.

Elizabeth’s Gold Star

Elizabeth gives a gold star to her sister-in-law Michelle, for encouraging her and Adam to buy a piece of art for their walls. As you can see, very California!

Elizabeth's Art

And if you want to take the Four Tendencies quiz, to find out if you’re an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel, it’s here.




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