Update: I’m excited because my new book, The Four Tendencies, hits the shelves in just 19 days.
I’m looking forward to heading to Los Angeles, and many other cities, on my book tour. Info here if you’d like to come to an event.
To thank readers who pre-order, I worked with a terrific production team to create a series of videos about the Four Tendencies. After the book goes on sale, I’ll charge for these videos, but until then, you can get access to them for free if you pre-order. Find all the info here. There’s an overview video, then subject videos on using the Four Tendencies at work, with spouses and sweethearts, with children and students, and in health-care settings.
It was great to hear everyone’s suggestions for anti-perfectionism mantras. Wonderful.
Try This at Home: Do ten jumping jacks. It will boost your mood and increase your energy.
Happiness Hack: As a way to cut down device addiction, Eric suggests that by forcing yourself to type in a long password to open your phone–rather than using a 6-digit password or fingerprint–you make it more inconvenient to open your phone and therefore easier to stay off it.
I talk about this strategy, the Strategy of Inconvenience, in Better Than Before.
Happiness Stumbling Block: When you feel like you’re in high school, all over again. The thing is, life is high school.
Gretchen’s Demerit: I gave myself a prospective demerit, as a way to do a “pre-mortem” to anticipate reasons for failure. Doing a pre-mortem helps identify ways to help a project to succeed. This is an exercise that really works!
To learn more about doing a pre-mortem, read Gary Klein’s piece “Peforming a Project Premortem” in the Harvard Business Review.
I did a pre-mortem by thinking, “My book fizzled. What did I do wrong?” and got very fired up to promote my book more. For instance, here’s the link to the pre-order bonus videos.
Elizabeth’s Gold Star: Elizabeth gave a gold star to her friend Jessica who entered — and won! — a Beverly Hills Pie-Baking Contest.
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