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Podcast 192: Why You Should Have People Over, Making Time for Your Side Hustle, and the Challenge of the “You Cook, I Clean” Approach.


Update: I'm very excited that The Happiness Project Tenth Anniversary Edition is about to hit the shelves. It has a lot of new materials, such as an update about what has happened to me in the past ten years, more resources, etc. It's a huge milestone for a writer to hit this kind of anniversary.

If you're planning to give a copy of this book as a gift, it's never too early to request a personalized, free bookplate to put in it—these take time to prepare, so I like to get them done well before holiday season if possible. Sign up here. U.S. and Canada only, I'm afraid—mailing costs.

Try This at Home: Have people over. Elizabeth is finally doing this!

On the subject of energy—"Energy" is the first chapter in my book The Happiness Project.

Happiness Hack: Have an audio book club.

Elizabeth mentions a book she loves: Bad Blood: Secrets and Lies in a Silicon Valley Startup by John Carreyrou.

In a previous episode, we discussed why you might want to choose an office TV show.

Four Tendencies Tip: How can an Obliger make time for a side hustle?

If you want to take the quick, free Four Tendencies quiz, to find out if you're an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel, you can take it here.

If you want to join my free Better app, you can find it here on desktop or here on mobile.

If you want to listen to Chris Guillebeau's excellent podcast, you can find Side Hustle School here.

If you want to read a free chapter of The Four Tendencies book, you can find it here.

Listener Question: How does a couple resolve a conflict about whether to follow the "You cook, I clean" model or the "I cook, I clean; you cook, you clean" model?

I mention one of my favorite posts, about shared work—you can read it here.

Elizabeth's Demerit: Elizabeth hasn't been doing family updates. To hear us discuss our family updates, listen to episode 2.

Gretchen's Gold Star: I give a gold star to my daughter Eleanor, who's coaching me on Instagram. I want to explore more of its possibilities. Follow me on Instagram on @gretchenrubin.


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