Podcast 128: Connect with TV, Conquering the Snooze Alarm — and Is It Possible to be a Mix of the Four Tendencies?

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Connect through television. On episode 9 of “Happier in Hollywood,” the weekly “Hollywood Hack” was to “watch the TV shows your boss watches” to create an easy way to connect. But TV is a great way to connect not only with a boss, but also with co-workers, teenagers, grandparents…many relationships. Have you ever used TV to strengthen an important relationship? I quote from Tyler Cowen’s Discover You Inner Economist: Use Incentives to Fall in Love, Survive Your Next Meeting, and Your Motivate Your Dentist

Happiness Hack

Put your alarm device across the room, so you have to get out of bed in order to turn off the noise.

Four Tendencies Tip

If you want to take the Quiz, to see whether you’re an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel, it’s here. People often suggest that they think they’re a mix of Tendencies, but I argue that just about every one of us does fall into one core Tendency. That said, the Tendencies do overlap, and it’s possible to “tip” to a Tendency that overlaps with your core Tendency. For instance, I’m an UPHOLDER/Questioner, and Elizabeth is an OBLIGER/Questioner. 

Four Tendencies Color Overlaps

Listener Question

Debbie asks how to figure out if she truly finds it fun to pursue the outdoor activities that her husband loves.

Elizabeth’s Demerit

Elizabeth has started playing a new app game, Two Dots

Gretchen’s Gold Star

I managed to stay (reasonably) calm while Eliza and I were shopping for some things she needs for college.

Three Resources

  1. To get the pre-order bonus, you can find info here, or at happiercast.com/4tbonus. You’ll get the overview video as well as subject videos on using the Four Tendencies at work, with spouses and sweethearts, with children and students, and in health-care settings.  Free now; after the book comes out, there will be a charge for the video series.
  2. I do weekly live videos on my Facebook Page to continue the conversation from the podcast — usually on Tuesdays at 3:00 pm ET. To join the conversation, check the schedule.

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