Gretchen Rubin

Podcast 114: Say “I’m Sorry,” an Interview with Hollywood Legend Sherry Lansing, and a Spice-Related Hack.


Update: Elizabeth's new podcast Happier in Hollywood launches on May 18! Also, I just finished first-pass pages for my book The Four Tendencies, which is now available for pre-order. (If you're inclined to buy the book, it's a big help to me if you pre-order.)

We read from Dani Shapiro's memoir Hourglass: Time, Memory, Marriage.

Try This at Home: Say you're sorry. We mention two books: Aaron Lazare's On Apology and Gary Chapman's The Five Languages of Apology, which argues that there are five "languages" of apology:

  • Expressing regret -- "I'm sorry"
  • Accepting responsibility -- "I was wrong"
  • Making restitution -- "What can I do to make it right?"
  • Genuinely repenting -- "I'll try not to do that again"
  • Requesting forgiveness -- "Will you please forgive me?"


You can find the website SorryWatch here.

Happiness Hack: If you want to collect a memento when traveling, buy spices. If you're looking for the site about reading books related to travel destinations, it's Longitude Books: Recommended Reading for Travelers.

Interview: Sherry Lansing. Check out Stephen Galloway's biography, Leading Lady: Sherry Lansing and the Making of a Hollywood Groundbreaker. Gosh, she is really a wise person.

In the photo, you can see me holding up the book about Sherry Lansing -- also note that I'm wearing the "HAPPY" sweater that Elizabeth gave me for Christmas.

Demerit:  Elizabeth was working at home, and she covered four miles on the treadmill on the first day -- but then she didn't exercise again.

Gold Star: I give a gold star to Elizabeth for dealing with her blepharitis. I write about the Strategy of Convenience in my book about habits, Better Than Before.

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