Update: Elizabeth, such a good sister, gives a plug for my book, Better Than Before -- soon to be out in paperback. We also talk about Christmas Boot Camp, Dog-Car-Riding Boot Camp, and a great unpacking tip. Also, eggs. We've heard from so many people about eggs! My daughters and I are now eating lots of hard-boiled eggs.
Today is the second in the series of four episodes that we’re devoting to the Four Tendencies. In last week's episode, we talked about the Upholder Tendency; this week, it's Questioner. To help shed light on the Questioner Tendency, we talk to brilliant agent Christy Fletcher.
To take the Four Tendencies quiz, go here. Find out if you’re an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel.
Try This at Home: Think about a few people in your life, identify their Tendencies, and try to put that knowledge to use. Understanding a Tendency can make it easier to manage conflict, come to agreement, and convince others of your point of view.
Strengths and Weaknesses of Questioners: As Christy points out, as with all the Tendencies, the strengths and the weaknesses of the Questioners are the flip sides of each other.
Striking Pattern of Questioners: Questioners can get overwhelmed or paralyzed by their desire to get their questions answered -- or they can overwhelm or annoy others with their desire for more information. We discuss how Questioners can get the benefits of their Tendency, and deal constructively with the downsides. Christy has some specific suggestions that work for her.
Christy's Try This at Home: Say "yes" to something that makes you uncomfortable.
Listener Question: "As a Questioner, I love to research and will spend a lot of time questioning my own decisions. One of my biggest challenges is 'decision paralysis.' How do Questioners overcome decision paralysis?" To read more about the maximizer vs. satisficer distinction, which we briefly discuss, read here, or in Better Than Before, in the chapter on the Strategy of Distinctions.
Elizabeth’s Demerit: Elizabeth hasn't been exercising as much as she wants to do.
Call for comments, questions, observations!
We’re spending four weeks talking about my Four Tendencies framework for human nature. We’ve already had many thought-provoking responses, but we want more.
- Take the Quiz to find out if you’re a Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel here.
- Listen to Elizabeth and me discuss the framework here.
- Read the chapter on the Four Tendencies in Better Than Before
Please, send in your questions and comments by voicemail, email, etc.
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The Four Tendencies explain why we act and why we don’t act. Our Tendency shapes every aspect of our behavior, so understanding your Tendency lets us make better decisions, meet deadlines, suffer less stress and burnout, and engage more effectively.