Podcast 185: Make a “Facts of Life” Book, Ideas for a Clutter-Related Conflict, and a New Way to Tell Left from Right.

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Make a “Facts of Life” book. What other kinds of information should a Facts of Life book include?

Happiness Hack

Like many people (I was surprised to learn how common this is), I have a bit of trouble telling left from right. This challenge can be especially annoying when I’m driving, and someone is telling me where to turn. Solution: instead of saying “left” or “right,” say “driver’s side” or “passenger side.” 

Happiness Stumbling Block

Do you suffer from “first-time fears?

Listener Question

An Obliger wants to nudge her Questioner husband into dealing with boxes from his father’s estate, which have remained unpacked for three years. Two of my favorite subjects combined: the Four Tendencies and outer order! Don’t know if you’re an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel? Take the new-and-improved quiz here

Gretchen’s Demerit: As I was helping my daughter Eliza get her (extremely large and heavy) luggage onto the train for the move to her sophomore year of college, I was so focused that I simply couldn’t engage with a friend I saw. I wasn’t rude, but I wasn’t friendly!

Elizabeth’s Gold Star: Knowing that Sarah has given up sugar for the year, the office of The Fix surprised her on her birthday with shots of green juice instead of cake.


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