Podcast 213: More Ideas about “Outer Order, Inner Calm” That Didn’t Make It Into the Book, a Tech Hack to Make Mornings More Fun, and Do You Have Dog Sense?

Try This at Home

Try these clutter-clearing tips that didn’t make it into my book Outer Order, Inner Calm, because I thought of them too late. For instance, we discuss tips such as…

  • Beware the “frenzy of the clear.”
  • If you’re the “neat one,” and someone is annoying you with his or her mess, do everything within your power to create outer order in what you can control.
  • If you’re trying to encourage yourself or someone else to create outer order in a space, think of what new, enjoyable use you could make of that space, so that it feels like working toward a gain instead of eliminating a problem.
  • Face the problem of the quality discard.
  • Ask necessary questions to get something out of a holding pattern.
  • Don’t spend money to fix something you don’t even like or want.
  • If an item needs to be repaired or tailored, set a deadline.

Happiness Hack

Change the alarm or ring-tone on your smart phone to a fun song from your playlist. 

Listener Question

Do you have dog sense, or sixth sense? Elizabeth does, I don’t. 

Gretchen’s Demerit

Repeat demerit. When I’m feeling worried and distracted, I often can’t manage to be warm and calm if I run into someone I know—in this case, when I ran into a friend right before the start of my first book event. 

Elizabeth’s Gold Star

Elizabeth gives a gold star to the marketing team for The Fix, for the terrific ads. To see the outstanding ad that played during the Oscar’s, watch here.


  1. Just as we say “Please rate and review the podcast,” please rate and review the book Outer Order, Inner Calm wherever you post online reviews (Amazon, Goodreads, etc.). It really helps other readers decide to read a book. Online reviews are very important!
  2. Created by popular demand! To get the new PDF with all the Happiness Hacks listed, you can get it here. (Scroll down to “More Resources.”)
  3. If you enjoy the Happier podcast, you can read Outer Order, Inner Calm on Apple Books at apple.co/gretchenrubin.

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