Podcast 226: Celebrate the Summer Solstice by Re-visiting Your One-Word Theme, How Obligers Beat the Allure of the Snooze Alarm, and an Alternative to the Evil Donuts.

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Celebrate the summer (or winter) solstice by re-visiting your one-word theme.

Every year, we choose a one-word or one-phrase theme for the year, and we talked about our one-word themes for 2019 in episode 201.

Elizabeth’s past choices have included “Free Time,” “Style,” “Hot Wheels,” “Novel,” “Home,” and “Control.” This year, her theme is “#6.” Intriguing!

My themes have included “Upgrade,” “Bigger,” “Lighten Up,” “Re-purpose,” and “Delegate.” This year, my word is “Growth.”

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Happiness Hack

Way, way back in episode 3 we talked about something that continues to be a subject of controversy until this day—the hotly contested issue of the Evil Donut-Bringer.

An unpublished study about “office cake” in the U.K. showed that on the one hand, many people agreed that office cake was widely available, often store bought, was difficult to resist, and made it very hard to eat healthfully, and on the other hand, people  valued the social benefits of office cake and believed that it cheered people up and brought people together.

So how can we experience the benefits of office cake, without the downsides of office cake?

My daughter Eliza told me about a terrific group activity she did at college—fun with the the Miracle Berry! I bought these to do as a family exercise, we can’t wait to try them.

Know Yourself Better

Are you an old soul or a new soul?

Listener Question

An Obliger can’t figure out how to conquer the allure of the snooze alarm.

I mention the Mathe Alarm Clock app—it requires you to do a math problem in order to turn off your alarm.

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Elizabeth’s Demerit

Friends had offered to have people over to watch The Fix, but she never did it.

Gretchen’s Gold Star

I give a gold star to my friend from college Blyth Taylor Lord, who is the founder and executive director of the Courageous Parents Network. It’s a nonprofit for parents of children with life-limiting conditions, to help support and equip families to deal with the issues that arise, and to make them feel supported by a community. It’s an extraordinary resource.


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