Update
I’m in Kansas City! I recorded this episode in my parents’ laundry room, surrounded by pillows to muffle the reverberations, because that’s where the signal is strongest.
Here in Kansas City, my daughters Eliza and Eleanor made soba noodles after we all watched several episodes of the terrific Netflix TV show Midnight Diner: Tokyo Stories, about a little Tokyo diner that’s open from midnight until 7 a.m. I was reminded of our discussion in episode 328, about the suggestion to “Eat something you saw on the page or screen.”
Try This at Home
Review your 21 for 2021 list.
We’ve talked about this idea many times: as you head into the new year, make a list of 21 things you’d like to get done in 2021.
In episode 149, we talked about our “18 for 2018” lists; in episode 203, “19 for 2019” lists; in episode 255, “20 for 2020” lists. Most recently, in episode 307, we revealed our “21 for 2021” lists.
Research shows that making a concrete, specific list, and referring back to it, really does help you achieve your aims. And for many people, this approach seems more fun than making traditional new year’s resolutions.
Because we’re about halfway through 2021 (how is that possible?), it was time to review our lists.
Gretchen’s “21 for ’21”
- Make a list of friends and colleagues I want to connect with by phone or Zoom – STARTED BUT NEED TO UPDATE
- Make two plans a week to connect with the people on that list – SORT OF
- Figure out the light-bulb question – SO CONFUSING THAT I STARTED THEN STALLED
- Have a scent party
- Have a taste party
- Try cryotherapy – WAITING FOR THE WEATHER TO GET HOT
- Make an Album of Now – UNDERWAY
- Get my Real I.D. (Good news: the Department of Homeland Security extended the deadline to May 3, 2023)
- Practice my driving (as I wrote about in Happier at Home, I’m a fearful driver) – UNDERWAY
- Read a Summer of Virginia Woolf – UNDERWAY
- Make an appointment to help me make better outfits from my own clothes
- Do 30 minutes of “review” each work day
- Add photos to my address book – UNDERWAY
- Watch Mad Men – DONE (listen to our bonus episode recap of the series)
- Look at old photo albums and home videos with my family
- Review my giant “happiness” catch-all document
- Play around with well-being apps
- Get our big red chair recovered – DONE
- Deal with my sent/trash folders – DONE
- Shine a spotlight on work I admire; amplify the work of others – UNDERWAY
- Add one new item!
Elizabeth’s “21 for ’21”
- Get the vaccine – DONE
- Get a Real I.D.
- Celebrate her friend Mike’s 50th birthday with friends – UNDERWAY
- Get Fraxel
- Sell two TV pitches – SOLD ONE
- Eat lots of vegetables, and to help with that, avoid using Postmates at night during the week – SORT OF
- Do another “sober month” – DONE
- Get through her giant book pile for #Read21in21 (if you want a don’t-break-the-chain sheet for #Read21in21, it’s here) – UNDERWAY
- Get a will
- Educate herself about investing in property
- Do a Happier in Hollywood meet-up (post-vaccine)
- Walk to Malibu – UNDERWAY
- Continue #Walk20in20 (if you want a don’t-break-the-chain sheet for #Walk20in21, it’s here)
- Weigh herself daily – STOPPED IN PUERTO RICO
- Use her Waterpic at least three times a week – DITTO
- Create a fiction podcast
- Trust her gut, especially at work – COULD BE BETTER
- Go to Disneyland
- Visit Miraval for a friend’s birthday
- Take Jack boogie-boarding at least 5 times
- In making hiring decisions for Fantasy Island, put her actions behind her intent to provide opportunities for all – DONE
Bottom line: both of us have many, many items left to accomplish.
If you’d like a sheet where you can write your “21 for 2021” list neatly, download yours here.
Happiness Hack: I suggest an image that my daughter Eleanor described to me, about how when she’s feeling overwhelmed, she visualizes herself shutting doors on her worries.
Elizabeth’s Demerit: Even though she’s back home in Los Angeles (briefly) from Puerto Rico, she hasn’t made any of the appointments she planned to make.
Gretchen’s Gold Star: I give a gold star to Elizabeth, because although she’s been working incredibly hard, she still takes an interest in what other people are doing.
Resources
- Are you trying to make (or break) a habit? Download my “Checklist for Habit Change.” This one-page chart will help you deploy the many strategies for habit change as you work on a crucial key habit that you want to master. Maybe it’s a habit that you included in your “21 for “2021” list. Click here and scroll down to “Better Than Before.”
- If you’re looking for some mood-boosting music this summer, we made a Happier 911 list on Spotify. So much great, happy music! All the songs were suggested by Happier podcast listeners.