Design Your Summer, Comfort vs. Adventure, & Friendship Burnout


We mention the fun, get-things-done-quick episodes: “Sweep the Deck,” Deck the Halls,” and “Clear the Decks” episodes.

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Design your summer.

We’ve talked about this idea in episodes 431, 325, 224, 118, and 67. Here’s the quotation that originally inspired these discussions:

Every man makes his own summer. The season has no character of its own, unless one is a farmer with a professional concern for the weather. Circumstances have not allowed me to make a good summer for myself this year…My summer has been overcast by my own heaviness of spirit. I have not had any adventures, and adventures are what make a summer.
— Robertson Davies, “Three Worlds, Three Summers,” The Enthusiasms of Robertson Davies (Amazon)

We talk about our upcoming hiking trip in England, partnering with Wilderness England: Northumberland and the Lake District. (The possibilities of Wilderness Ireland/ and Wilderness Scotland/ also look terrific.)

I talk about my “Five-Senses Portrait: Summer Past and Present.”

I mention that the “Spin the Wheel” in the Happier app will suggest a fun, free activity to help give users concrete ideas for a happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative summer.

Happiness Hack

We discuss a symptoms break-down if you’re wondering whether you’re suffering from Covid, allergies, or a cold.

Know Yourself Better

If you have to choose, do you prefer comfort or adventure? 

Listener Question

A very outgoing and gregarious listener asks about her pattern of periodically withdrawing from social demands.

Demerits & Gold Stars

Elizabeth’s Demerit: She gives herself a demerit for a failure of dog-training.

Gretchen’s Gold Star: The students working at Jamie’s and my college reunions were so friendly and cheerful.


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