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Podcast 133: Create a Spot of Transition, Accountability for Introverts–and Is There a Correct Way to Load a Dishwasher


Update: I’m excited because my new book, The Four Tendencies, hits the shelves in just SIX days. Not long now!

Remember, as a thank-you for people who pre-order the book, I'm making my videos series free for people who pre-order. All the details are  here. You’ll get the overview video as well as subject videos on using the Four Tendencies at work, with spouses and sweethearts, with children and students, and in health-care settings.  Free now; after the book comes out, there will be a charge for the video series.

I’m looking forward to heading to Los Angeles, and many other cities, on my book tour. Info here if you’d like to come to an event. If you're in the Los Angeles area, and you'd like to come to the meet-up from 5:00-7:00 p.m. September 17, go onto the free Better app and under the tab "Events," look for "Los Angeles Meet-up with Gretchen and Liz."

Try This at Home: Create a place for things in transition. Having a system for things in transition helps a household or office to be more efficient, and also removes the visual clutter of having stuff out.

Here's a photo of my "spot of transition." Library books to return are on the left, books to give away are on the right, and there's room for other things in transition. Elizabeth and I will work on her spot of transition when I visit her in L.A.

Happiness Hack: As I describe in my books The Happiness Project and Happier at Home, I love my system of organizing my daughters' paper-based mementos (birthday party invitations, our family Valentine's cards, school photo, etc.): years ago, I bought two durable, slightly-more-attractive-than-cardboard file-boxes, added a file folder for each school year, and now I add anything worth saving.

It's organized, visually appealing, space-efficient -- and it's so satisfying to know exactly where to put the official camp photo or the special birthday card.

Above is a photo of Eleanor's box. You could choose any kind of file-box, but if you're curious about the one I used, it's here.

Know Yourself Better: Do you have strong views about the right way to load a dishwasher? I'm astonished by how passionately people will argue about this topic.

Listener Question: Jenna is an Obliger who is shy. She wants to create the outer accountability that she needs as an Obliger, to meet her inner expectations -- but doesn't like meeting in groups.

I suggest that she might consider joining an accountability group on my free "Better" app -- find the app here or search in the app store under "Better Gretchen Rubin."

Speaking of Obligers, if you want to take the Quiz to tell you whether you’re an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger or Rebel, it's here. Or to learn even more, buy The Four Tendencies book.

Gretchen’s Demerit: I'm going too fast. I remind myself, "Go slow to go fast."

Elizabeth’s Gold Star: Gold star for whiteboards! At home and at work.

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