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Podcast 204: Put a Band-Aid On It, Consider “Me Time Tuesday,” and How to Persuade a Reluctant Spouse to Do More Work.


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Try This at Home: Put a Band-aid on it.

Happiness Hack: Have a "Me Time Tuesday" when each member of a couple makes his or her own plans.

Four Tendencies Tip: How can a Questioner husband persuade his Obliger wife to choose a more economical phone plan?

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Listener Answer: How can an Obliger wife persuade her Questioner husband to help more?

I mention one of my very favorite blog posts that I've ever written: "Resentful? Overworked? Face these painful facts about shared work."

Elizabeth's Demerit: Repeat demerit—she hasn't written thank-you notes. This time, to parents who donated to her son's school.

Gretchen's Gold Star: I give a gold star to the New York Society Library, which now offers online e-memberships. For $100/year, you get full access to the library's vast array of electronic resources. More library for all!


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