Podcast 217: Don’t Over-Consult, a Hack that Makes It Easier to Exercise, and When You’re Upset, Do You Feel It More in Your Head or in Your Body?


Try This at Home

Don’t over-consult. I realized I was over-consulting with my husband Jamie. I was trying to spare myself decision-fatigue by talking things through, when in fact, I should just make the call myself. Elizabeth wants reassurance.

Happiness Hack

When folding clothes, bundle your workout clothes together—including socks—so all you have to do is a grab a bundle before a morning workout. A helpful approach, especially for people who have a hard time getting up early. This is a great example of the powerful, universal Strategy of Convenience that I write about in Better Than Before, my book about habit change. I mention that I mail bookplates for listeners and readers. If you’d like bookplates for your books, or bookplates for gifts, you can request them here. Alas, this is for U.S. and Canada only—mailing costs.

Know Yourself Better

When you’re upset, do you feel those negative emotions more in your head or more in your body?

Gretchen’s Demerit

Because of my book tour, I’ve fallen behind on my note-taking. I love to take notes, and it’s a very important part of my work and my play, but I haven’t kept up lately so I’m feeling overwhelmed by what needs to be done

Elizabeth’s Gold Star

Elizabeth gives a gold star to text chains. In her words, “Leave me on the text chain, because I enjoy reading the discussion.”


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